Hey Wendy, What’s With the Hair?
I wrote this post in 2014 when I was launching the $3000 Experiment. I've left it here on my blog because it gives more detail about a pivotal experience that set me up for the work I do. Enjoy!
The photo, above, captures the essence of what I was like for years. Then I’ll describe an extraordinary event that changed me, much later, for the better.
That photo was taken the day before my 6th birthday. As my birthday present, I’d begged for one thing: to have my hair done like my mom’s. So you’ll notice the manifestation of my deepest desire sitting atop my head, carefully lacquered into place.
(Irrelevant side note: the day after this photo, my coiffe was destroyed by a night of sleep. Devastated that no one at my birthday party would see the gorgeousness captured in this photo, my foul mood eventually erupted into a melt-down when I spied my mom unfairly helped my younger brother, David, win the potato-on-a-spoon race. I was summarily dismissed from my own party and sent to my room, requiring me to stomp loudly to my room and throw myself on the bed in indignation.)
Under the hair, notice the serious and slightly worried expression on my face. That look captures the overall frame of mind I had every day until my late 30’s.
Skipping many formative life events, I grew up to become a serious, slightly-worried university lecturer devoted to all things scientific, analytical and ‘left brain’. My professional responsibility was to teach Bachelor of Nursing students to rely on scientific data to assess any new information or idea. The scientific method was my guru and I smugly derided any alternative approach to health care or the body that a curious student dared mention in my class.
A crack formed in my world view when, for some now-forgotten reason, I had a Reiki Session The practitioner waved her hands a distance away and I witnessed undeniable changes in my body. No scientific data I was aware of could explain this effect, yet it was very real.
(Side note: that day the woman also predicted I’d eventually make my living using an ‘audio-recording system that didn’t yet exist’. I was 100% certain she was dead-wrong. Today, hundreds of digitally-recorded sessions later, I marvel instead.)
In my late 30’s I started having extraordinary ‘mystical’ experiences that revealed wonderful truths about the nature of reality. I’ll share just one today.
I was at a funeral of a friend’s mother when suddenly, inexplicably, I found myself aware of and communicating with the woman whose death we had gathered to mourn.
As I interacted with her, I suddenly found myself using abilities I didn’t realize I had but which I instantly remembered as familiar and natural.
Through a visual sensing system completely different from our physical eyes, I saw the woman as a dazzling, luminous, highly intelligent and loving light that filled the upper third of the church. Also astonishing but equally natural was they way we were communicating telepathically. By thinking a thought ‘to’ her, my meaning was communicated in its entirety, wordlessly. She understood everything I intended and felt as completely as I did – with no misunderstanding on any level. To this day, human language and words are unbearably cumbersome and incomplete in contrast.
I could feel everything she felt, which turned out to be infinitely ‘evolved’ from her, and almost every, human personality. She was carefree, joy-filled, unconditionally loving, non-judgmental and possessed deep wisdom and compassion. One aspect of her demeanour I found baffling at the time was that she was fully attuned to the suffering of her loved ones but felt no sadness whatsoever for their emotional distress. It seemed she understood a higher truth that explained this beyond my understanding. (I came to understand the reason for this and will explain in a future post. It also explains why we can influence each other at a distance, like by working remotely, say.)
During the half-hour of our interaction, I simultaneously experienced both the ‘human reality of the funeral’ and ‘the even-more-real reality beyond the human experience’. I remembered her reality as our natural state and the one we experience fully when we leave the limitation of our human bodies. It was like waking up from a dream.
Seeing her immense light and beauty while also looking at her casket I wondered, “How did she ever squeeze all of herself into that tiny body!? It must feel so wonderful to be out!” (Obvious fact: You and I too are magnificent beings of light squeezed into our human personality and lives for awhile. Then, wahoo!)
One part of me wanted to yell, “Check this out, everyone! She’s right here and she’s more way alive and happy than ever!” But I watched her gently touch the shoulder of each person there and saw no flicker of recognition register on a single face and knew the truth would only come across as inappropriate and, probably, insane.
I understood that the higher state of ‘all-is-well-ness’ she was modelling is accessible to us in any situation we are in even now. We can learn to be wise, loving, non-judgemental and carefree in any situation, no matter how dire. Because that’s who we really are.
Afterward that day, it became my aim to achieve this ‘higher’ state of being in my daily life. I discovered effective techniques (shared in the programs in my Store) that erase learned human responses like worry, blame, fear, etc. As a result, many of those standard human feelings are now distant memories for me.
I know I’m not fundamentally human, so I’m not required to respond like one. If any of my future hairstyles or desires are destroyed, I won’t be devastated nor sent to my bedroom for bad behaviour. And if so, I’d probably chuckle my way down the hall.
A great permanent gift I received that day was the ability to perceive the ‘more evolved presence’ of everyone else too. I perceive both the human person being lost to the grip of a human dilemma as their ‘higher self’ stands alongside – light-hearted, unconcerned, loving, wise and carefree. As a result, I walk a fine line between being sympathetic to a person’s human experience while also basking in the light-heartedness of their higher self who always says,
“Everything turns out fine here. You can go run with a potato on a spoon.”
This ability has proved infinitely practical and useful in my work where I can use my dual awareness to help clients bridge the gap between the experience their human self and their ‘higher self’ on any topic they bring.
I recently worked, for example, with a man, terrified of hospitals, illness and dying, who had end-stage cancer. Through a series of private sessions, it was a great personal triumph for him to realize a stable position of deep peace, contentment, joy and freedom, exactly like his higher self had been radiating all along. As his body declined he became more alive. So when he transitioned to a full experience of that higher self at his death, the difference wouldn’t have been much of a shock, I tell ya’.
I am suddenly realizing this is becoming a very long post so I’m going to end it abruptly right here with the promise to share more later.
Let the take-away be that you are infinitely more than your human self knows you to be. That ‘more of you’ is also right here in every situation with you willing to be brought into full expression in ways that will astonish you.
It just keeps getting better from here!
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